A mini interview with Mrs H

I’ve no idea how I came across Mrs H and her page but it feels like we’ve known each other forever. I am lucky that I’ve met Mrs H and her beautiful family. Kelly (It’s a Tink Thing) and I travelled to Scotland last year to finally meet her face to face. Such an amazing family and Mrs H is a fantastic friend that is extremely caring and supportive. She goes that extra mile to look out for people despite having an incredibly busy home life. She’s one special lady!

Tell us a little about yourself

Hello I am Mrs H, mummy to two incredible little girls.  I love cooking, reading crime novels, drinking wine and going to the cinema.

What is your connection to autism?

My husband and both my daughters are autistic.

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What made you start a Facebook page/blog?

We had a terrible time getting the girls diagnosed and supported.  It took a long time to get my older daughter’s diagnosis and soon after her diagnosis we relocated to Scotland.  Social care up here accused me of child abuse and of making it all up as they didn’t recognise her struggles.  I set up our page to spread information about autism generally but to also highlight the more hidden aspects of autism in some girls on the spectrum and to try and prevent others who may have been in the same situation as me, from feeling as alone as I felt whilst fighting to clear my name.

Do you think there is enough support and resources in your area for autistic people and their families?

No, there is not enough at all.  We have to travel quite far to access anything and that is varied and limited.

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What are your thoughts about how autism is portrayed in the media?

I think autism and autistic people are under represented and the few fictional characters I am aware of all seem quite stereotypical.  I’d love to see more nuanced characters representing girls on the spectrum in more mainstream dramas.  Talia Grant in Hollyoaks is a huge step forward but I confess it’s not a show I watch.  There have been massive strides forward in terms of coverage in documentaries talking about autism and representing autistic people – I thought the Chris Packham documentary, Asperger’s and Me, was brilliant and the Channel 4 show ‘Are you Autistic?’ fronted by Georgia Harper and Sam Ahern, two autistic women was great.  It provoked a lot of discussion outside the autistic community too.  It’d be great to see more autistic people fronting main TV shows like the One Show, or This morning, producing and controlling how autism is portrayed both in fictional and reality based genres.  Anne Hegerty’s appearance in ‘I’m a Celebrity’ was very powerful because autism wasn’t the focus but her experiences and reactions featured enough to help people understand how it can impact on life.  I thought she was incredibly brave.

What 3 books, related to autism, would you recommend to people?

All the Girl with the Curly hair books by Alis Rowe are brilliant.  Talking Autism, Parenting your Unique Child by Victoria Hatton and Walking on Eggshells, Confessions from an Asperger marriage and how we made it work by Karen Rowlands.  Karen also wrote an app which is brilliant called Asperger marriage Instant Help.

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What would you like the world to know about autism?

That it affects girls in the same way as boys and that it is not an illness or something that needs to be ‘cured’.  It’s just a different operating system.  The world is not set up for the autistic operating system though so it isn’t easy wherever someone is on the spectrum and by talking about autism, learning about it and by making small adjustments for an autistic person you can make a real difference to their lives.

You can follow Mrs H (and Little Miss H & Tiny Miss H) here: H2Au: the stuff of our life

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Interview with Harish Bikmal, founder of Zenaviv – A social enterprise set up to promote recognition, opportunity and income for every autistic artist

As a person who loves art (although I’m a total novice) I was excited to be contacted by Harish who wanted to tell me about Zenaviv and he kindly granted me an interview which I’ve written up below and added some of the incredible art work by his son, Himal.  The story behind Zenaviv and what it offers is fantastic, and I’m so thrilled to be a small part in helping to promote this life changing enterprise that offers autistic artists an opportunity to express themselves and make their own money from their work. I hope you enjoy the interview below and please take a look at the website at the artists incredible work (link at the end of the interview) – Julie.

“The name Zenaviv is derived from the Japanese word ‘zen’, meaning enlightenment, and the Hebrew word ‘aviv’, meaning spring, or colours of spring. Our artists experience this ‘spring’ or new season of growth and opportunity in their lives as they turn their talent and abilities into beautiful, colourful works of art that bring light and life to the clients we serve”.

Northern Lights By artist Himal Bikmal

 

What exactly is Zenaviv?
Zenaviv is a social enterprise startup with a vision to significantly improve the lives of artists with autism and provide them with hope for the future. Simultaneously we work to challenge and change the way the world perceives people on the spectrum – from individuals with challenges to people with unique talents and strengths.

What is your role and what was your inspiration or driving force to create Zenaviv?
I started Zenaviv along with my older son, Saket. He is currently a freshman in college studying neuroscience. As I am sure you may have guessed, I have a personal connection to autism. My younger son Himal was our inspiration behind Zenaviv. He was diagnosed with severe non-verbal autism with immune and gut problems when he was 2. Although he is 17 now, his developmental age is around age 6. Fortunately, with a tremendous amount of hard work and perserverance from my wife and several teachers and therapists, Himal learnt to paint.  And then one thing led to the other and starting of Zenaviv. Currently, I volunteer full-time at Zenaviv to help build it up.

Can you share the story of Zenaviv?
Sure, let me share a little bit of background. After Himal’s diagnosis at age 2, we were told he may need to be put in an institution by age 5, which left us with very little hope for what his life and our lives together could be. As you can imagine, my wife and I constantly worried about his future – especially his life when we were gone and no longer there to take care of him. Like other parents we struggled to do as many things as possible to help him, but the progress was very slow. When he was about 10 years old, keep in mind he couldn’t properly hold a fork, he picked up a paintbrush from his mother and started dabbing on the canvas she was working on. When we saw this, we started him in art therapy and since then his teachers and therapists have been tremendous in helping develop and nurture his painting skills. This provided a glimmer of hope to us.

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One of Himal’s Early Paintings

As Himal continued to paint and we continued to be overwhelmed with his medical and therapy bills, (there was no insurance coverage for autism in the US then) we decided to hold a fundraiser to sell his art pieces. He had painted about 50 pieces at the time, and when people heard about the fundraiser over 100 people from the community donated their art to his cause. We were so blown away by the support we felt. It was crazy! It  deeply touched our hearts!

“…when people heard about the fundraiser over 100 people from the community donated their art to his cause”.

Then, on the day of the fundraiser, we sold over 1500 greeting cards in 2 hours and over 130 paintings in 6 hours. This was where the idea of Zenaviv came from and where I was further inspired to help people on the spectrum share their talent and help reduce the stress level on the families by taking them outside of their daily challenges and helping them see hope for the future.

What did you hope to achieve and how has it developed since the
beginning?
I dream of a day where all families impacted by autism nurture the passions and  strengths of their children to develop a sense of purpose. The families should be proud of their children and live with hope for a brighter future. I want the public to look past the autism diagnosis to see the dignity and value of each individual. Our vision is to provide recognition, opportunity, and income for every artist with autism to accomplish these dreams.

Thus far, the response from the parents of children on the Zenaviv platform has been heartwarming. For example, one mother speaking of her son, says it has “given him a greater sense of satisfaction in his artwork, and consequently made him feel like a more valuable member of society. He is a happier person as a result of Zenaviv”. Thanks to the recognition from organisations such as The Washington Post, Woman’s  Day, and Four seasons Hotels, the confidence level of my son Himal and the other Zenaviv artists has grown in leaps and bounds. They feel a huge sense of accomplishment whenever their art is displayed, sold, or appreciated. These developments have validated the power of our cause and guide us in surging ahead.

“I want the public to look past the autism diagnosis to see the dignity and value of each individual”.

What can Zenaviv offer the artists and their families?
We have structured Zenaviv in a way that maximizes income for the artists. Currently each artist earns 66% of the profits from the sale of their art. Keep in mind, this is sales from the multiple prints and products with art on them. So the artist can earn several times and not just one-time income from the original.

Since starting Zenaviv, the artists and their guardians have said that the income they are earning is helping them with some of their medical needs such as art therapy, speech therapy, etc. It’s gratifying to hear the parents say that they are seeing their children excited and happy and wanting to keep creating. The families are seeing some hope that their children will have something to do and look forward to as they grow. As I said earlier, ultimately we dream of a day where individuals are proud of their work, there is hope in the family rather than despair and the general public looks past autism to see the talents of these individuals!

How many artists do you currently have? How have they found it beneficial using art?
We currently have 11 artists and a few more are expected to join soon. As I mentioned earlier, the response from the artists and parents has been heartwarming. Let me start with my son, Himal, he’s not usually very expressive but when he sees one of his paintings hanging in a local business, the expression on his face is just priceless for us as parents. This is how the power of artistic expression has impacted him. For our family, it was the very spark of hope we so desperately needed to forge ahead.

The father of an artist, whose talented daughter participated in an art show that was held last fall, told us that after the event “she came to us and said ‘this is cool, and I am excited to be there’; words we heard as parents for the first time from our daughter”. As a father myself, such news is gratifying and propels us to move ahead with re-doubled enthusiasm.

Is this open to any Country for any autistic artist to join?
That is correct. We are open to artists from around the world. We are expecting artists from a couple of countries to join the platform soon. We would welcome any artist from anywhere in the world.

What are the main aims and goals for the future? How would you like to see it expand?
The ultimate goal is Zenaviv to be a platform for all individuals wherever they live and to inspire parents to nurture the ‘hidden’ unique strengths and passions of their children. Simultaneously we are working on challenging the perceptions the common public has about people on the spectrum.

By the end of the year we expect to promote at least 25 artists with consistent income. Over the next five years our goal is to directly impact 2,000 artists around the world.

The Sunflower. By artist Himal Bikmal

“We would welcome any artist from anywhere in the world”

A huge thank you to Harish for answering my questions, it’s been an absolute pleasure writing this up and I wish you all much success and happiness for the future.

Watch a short video from Harish here: Harish Bikmal – Founder of Zenaviv

The Website can be found here: Zenaviv

The shop containing the artists work here where you can purchase canvas, prints, cards, magnets, tote bags and more: Zenaviv Shop

A mini interview with Lynn

I ‘met’ Lynn a few years ago on an app called ‘periscope’ where we chatted with friends in a kind of ‘go live’ setting. I love following her journey and Owen is an amazing boy. Together they are one incredible team and they create some incredible art work which I love seeing. Here are Lynn’s answers to my questions:

Tell us a little about yourself

I’m Lynn and I am currently living in West Virginia, USA, with my son, Owen who is seven. After moving to West Virginia I became involved in theatre, and eventually into stand-up comedy. My son and I love to go bowling. And I love donuts.

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What is your connection to autism?

My son, Owen, was diagnosed with autism in March of 2015, near his third birthday. Since then I have been trying to learn how to help and support my son.

What made you start a Facebook page/blog?

I wanted to share our journey about autism with others. I wanted other parents to not feel alone, and for those that had not been around autism, I wanted to share a glimpse into our world to see what it is like. I wanted to show the whole story. My roller coaster of emotions, the highs, the lows, and in-between; all while learning what autism means to my son, and his future. I wanted a place to share our victories, and celebrate other’s victories, as well. Plus, I wanted people to be able to ask me questions about our journey.

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Do you think there is enough support and resources in your area for autistic people and there families?

No! Flat out, NO! I don’t think there is enough support for families anywhere. That’s a broad statement, but I truly believe that so many families are struggling for help, and support. I feel like the support needs to start earlier, and start with the parents, and guardians, and then the children. I felt like not only was I having to recreate the wheel, but I had to find a way to move it along. I think the nice thing about social media is being able to reach out to others that have walk along this path, and they become part of your support system.

What are your thoughts about how autism is portrayed in the media?

I think I block a lot of it out. I try to focus more on the positive stories, and not what the media is really saying.

What three books related to autism would you recommend to people?

That’s a hard one for me to narrow down. I have learned a lot from the author Brenda Smith Myles. Any of her books, I think, will answer a lot of behavioural questions, and help you with solutions, or more of an understanding of autism.

What would you like the world to know about autism?

My son has severe autism, but he is thriving. He is learning to talk, and every day I see growth. I want people to understand that he is accomplishing great things, even though he may struggle to learn some things. It’s not always easy for him, or me, but like I tell him, we are a team, and will get through this together. I always say, “autism wasn’t important to me, until autism was important to me”.

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You can follow Lynn & Owen on Facebook: Sweet Baby O

Lynn’s blog is here: Lynn Browder

A mini interview with Zoe

I can’t remember when I started following Zoe’s incredible Facebook page but Brodie was still in school. I love following Brodie’s adventures, he’s an amazing young man (Harley too, Brodie’s brother) and incredibly lucky to have such a wonderful mum. Here are Zoe’s answers to my questions:

Tell us a little about Brodie

Brodie is a 20-year-old young man, he has his own lawn mowing business and he works two days a week with a support worker, the other 3 days he attends a farm day options programme.  Brodie loves life and has a great sense of adventure, he loves fast rides, fast cars and fast boats.  He can ride a quad bike, motor bike, and loves to go on the jet-ski.  He follows Aussie rules football and is a Port Adelaide supporter.

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What is your connection to autism?

Brodie was diagnosed with Autism at 22 months old, his sibling Harley was diagnosed with Asperger’s when he was 8 years old.

What made you start a Facebook page/blog?

Brodie is a legend and I don’t care if sharing his achievements is ‘inspiration porn’ or not, I think it’s great he can inspire others to live life to fullest they can.

Do you think there is enough support and resources in your area for autistic people and their families?

Over the years it has changed so much, services have grown, but everything is still a fight, you are constantly having to prove your child’s autism like it may have magically disappeared.

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What are your thoughts about how autism is portrayed in the media?

I feel like the Autism community is often fighting within itself over these types of things.   I believe strongly we must listen to Autistic adults, but we must remember that being a parent of a person with Autism is also a role and it in itself has its own story and no it’s not the same narrative as being an Autistic person, but it has a different story and parents should feel OK with sharing that story with respect of course.

What 3 books, related to autism, would you recommend to people?

Gosh I haven’t read any books in ages (who has time) I found the movie “The Black balloon” was representational of our story, it’s also Australian.

What would you like the world to know about autism?

It’s different for everyone and each story/each family situation/each belief system and values is going to change how autism looks for each autistic person and their family and friends and supports.  I can share my story, I can assist Brodie to share his story and help provide a platform for him to do so and assist him with finding his voice, but that’s all. It’s just how it is and how it was for us, we can’t tell others how be autistic, or what autism means to them or how to parent their child with autism.  You need to take it on an individual basis and you have to accept each unique story without judgement.

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You can follow Zoe & Brodie’s Facebook page here:  Forehead kisses – Our Awesome Autism page

Brodie’s business page is here: Mow Your Own Future

A mini interview with Chris

We first met Chris in 2017 (face to face, I’d followed his page a long while). Eliza is in his book ‘What we love most about life’. Since then we’ve become very close friends and Eliza adores spending time with him. I’ve had the honour of reading his upcoming novel, Underdogs, which is incredible and is released next month! He’s one of our favourite geeky humans in the world and here are his answers to my questions:

Tell us a little about yourself

I’m a special needs tutor, formerly a primary school teacher, and I run the website Autistic Not Weird. Since starting it I’ve also become an international speaker and autism trainer, and a published author too- which wasn’t the plan but I love how it turned out!

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Chris Bonnello

What is your connection to autism?

Being autistic myself, diagnosed with Asperger’s at the age of 25. Having grown up before knowledge of autism was widespread, and being described as having a “slightly odd personality” in an official report at the age of ten.

What made you start a Facebook page/blog?

I left mainstream teaching in December 2014, having also worked in special education. In the gap between teaching and tutoring, I really came to miss having the opportunity to build up autistic people. So I thought I’d start up a website to write about autism while I was getting anxious and failing job interviews for a living.

Do you think there is enough support and resources in your area for autistic people and their families?

I waited literally five years between my diagnosis and my first follow-up appointment, so not particularly.

What are your thoughts about how autism is portrayed in the media?

We’re certainly heading in the right direction, although we’ll never get it perfect. Autism is just too wide and varied a spectrum for everyone to be represented accurately. But at the very least, we’ve moved on from the Rain Man days and started listening to feedback from people who are actually autistic!

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Chris and Eliza, Sept 2018

What 3 books, related to autism, would you recommend to people?

(Not sure whether I can recommend my own. XD Happy to skip this one actually.)

Tell us about your novel that is due to be published next month.

Underdogs is a near-future war novel featuring autistic (and otherwise neurodiverse heroes). The whole of Britain has been taken over and imprisoned in giant walled citadels, under the watchful eye of countless cloned soldiers. Only a dozen people remain free in the abandoned countryside, eight of whom are teenagers who escaped the attack on their special school. Now they’re Britain’s last line of defence, learning how to play to their strengths in a world that’s always defined them by their weaknesses.

Turns out there’s quite a demand for neurodiversity in fiction- Underdogs has now had 2.5 times as many copies pre-ordered as the average novel sells in its opening year (and we’re not even at Day One yet!). It’s been endorsed by Steve Silberman (author of Neurotribes) and by Carol Povey of the National Autistic Society, which I’m utterly thrilled about, and I can’t wait to see everyone’s reaction once it’s released. Not least because the publisher has already accepted the sequel!

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What do you hope the future holds for you as a writer and for your advocacy work?

I’ve never had any idea how to answer this question! I’m honoured to have such a well-read platform for my autism advocacy, astounded that people have even given me awards for it, and events such as having a novel published and speaking at Sydney Opera House have been totally outside anything I ever dreamed of in my teaching career. I think maintaining what I already have is absolutely enough. Although I’d love for the Underdogs series to be successful enough to continue beyond its current two volumes- I have four planned in total!

What would you like the world to know about autism?

I don’t think there’s enough room for me to answer that question! But mainly, I want the world to know that we get to be individuals too rather than just walking diagnoses; that the world becomes better for autistic people when we’re defined by our strengths rather than just our weaknesses; and that opportunities to play to our strengths do wonders for our self-perception.

 

You can find Chris on Facebook here: Autistic Not Weird

Website: ANW Website

Chris’s novel can be ordered here: Underdogs

Chris’s book ‘What we love most about life’: WWLMAL

A mini interview with Kelly

I ‘met’ Kelly a few years ago via Facebook. We both run pages about girls on the spectrum and Tink can be very similar to Eliza. We’ve actually managed to meet face to face a couple of times, even travelling to Scotland together to meet two other page owners. Our girls have met and had fun at a party too. She’s an incredible friend and an inspiration, always supporting others despite how busy she is. Here are her answers to my questions:

Tell us a little about yourself

I’m Kelly, mum to Tink and H, and married to Dave. We live in the West Midlands. I left my career in early years to be Tink’s full-time carer, and now she’s at school I have my own Virtual Assistant business, which fits in with me home educating H.

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What is your connection to autism?

My 7 year old daughter was diagnosed with autism at the age of 3. We are also currently on the diagnostic pathway with our son, who is 11.

What made you start a Facebook page/blog?

I started my blog the day after Tink was diagnosed as a place to record my thoughts and feelings about this new journey we’d found ourselves on. I then added my Facebook page as a way to share updates and anecdotes with friends and family without wanting to post on my personal timeline all the time. I soon found kindred spirits in other parent bloggers and page owners, as well as autistic adults who write too.

Do you think there is enough support and resources in your area for autistic people and their families?

Is there ever enough? We have some services in our area, but they’re hard to access, limited to certain families, etc. There are a couple of parent-led support groups, but I’m not really a face-to-face kind of person! I feel there could be much more support for the whole family.

What are your thoughts about how autism is portrayed in the media?

For me, any portrayal of autism in the media gets people talking about autism, which has to be a good thing. I see autistic people complaining that we only ever see classic, more severe autism, or the more Asperger’s/ Savant Syndrome type shown in the media. I’m not sure this it totally true, but even so, the autism spectrum is so vast, and each person on it so individual, that there’s no way each person’s own experience could ever be properly represented. I’d just like to see more autistic people on TV and in film, just like there are in ‘real life’.

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What 3 books, related to autism, would you recommend to people?

The first book I read after Tink’s diagnosis was ‘Toast’ by Alice Boardman, mum to sons on very different parts of the autism spectrum. I related to many of the stories she wrote about, and it was the first thing that made me feel as though we weren’t alone.

I loved reading ‘Neurotribes’ by Steve Silberman, as it gave me a good insight into much of the background to the autism spectrum.

The third book I’d recommend is ‘Talking Autism: Parenting Your Unique Child’ by Victoria Hatton. As a SEN teacher and parent of at least one child on the spectrum, her book is full of useful strategies for helping autistic children in a variety of situations and scenarios.

Can I add a cheeky fourth book? Although I haven’t read it yet, I know it’s going to be fantastic… I’m really looking forward to receiving my copy of ‘Underdogs’ by Chris Bonnello. Chris, who is autistic himself, has written a novel about a gang of ‘misfits’ who use their diverse abilities to navigate their way through life in post-war Britain, and become the neurodiverse shoulders that the surviving population’s hopes rest on.

****Absolutely!!! I have read the book and it is incredible, you’ll love it. It can be ordered here: Underdogs by Chris Bonnello

What would you like the world to know about autism?

I want the world to know that autism isn’t to be feared. We tend to fear the unknown, it’s true, so make some effort to learn about autism. Understand how it can affect those with it – the difficulties they face, largely as a result of trying to live in a world that wasn’t made for them. Then try to use that knowledge to make change happen. Autistic people are some of the kindest, gentlest, most caring, considerate, intelligent, funny and loving people I know.

You can follow Tink’s journey here: It’s a Tink thing

You can follow H’s journey here: Homeschooling H

Kelly’s virtual assistant business is here: Kelly Kemp VA

A mini interview with Miriam

Miriam is a lovely friend and fellow blogger. We met through our Facebook pages and online groups that we are both in. She’s always supportive and encouraged me to keep blogging during times I felt like giving up. Here are her answers to my questions:

Tell us a little about you and your family.

My name is Miriam and I live in Scotland. I have a husband, two children and a large tank of tropical fish. I have a degree in primary school teaching but I am currently a full-time parent carer.

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What is your connection to autism?
My husband is autistic, though he wasn’t diagnosed until he was 59. Both of my children are autistic.

What made you start a Facebook page/blog?
Both were started for very different reasons and both serve a different purpose for me.
My blog (www.faithmummy.wordpress.com) was started on my 36th birthday. I realised I was closer to 40 than 30 and wanted to do something worthwhile with my life but having two four-year olds, one of who is significantly disabled, I felt so alone and stuck. My son had just been diagnosed with a genetic tumour growing condition the month before and I thought writing my story might help others. I wrote my first blog called ‘the story so far’ and within hours over 800 people had read it! I asked my brother (who wrote a blog for his work) what I should do next and he said I should update it. I asked how often and he said weekly! I was shocked but the next week I wrote more and for the last six years and three months I have written a weekly update.
When my first blog was published on another site after a few years everything changed. I began getting not only a lot of abuse and hate but a huge amount of support and hundreds of strangers friend requested me as they wanted to read my weekly updates. It was then I felt I should start a page where I could have followers and post updates without taking away from the intimacy that I posted on my own wall for friends and family.

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Do you think there is enough support and resources in your area for autistic people and their families?
That’s a great question. I think much depends on the individual needs of families and children. There are lots of support groups and groups for children but not everyone is able to access these for various reasons. I also think there is very little nationally for more severely affected children like my non verbal son.

What are your thoughts about how autism is portrayed in the media?
The media, by nature, have an agenda and want views so will always naturally be drawn to autism from the view of ‘Will people watch this?’ That means they are most likely to use extreme examples and in that aspect it can portray autism as extreme one way or other. The other factor is that there is no such thing as a ‘typical autistic’ which makes their task almost impossible. The more they feature it though the better for everyone.

What 3 books, related to autism, would you recommend to people?
It very much depends what the person is looking for. Story wise I love ‘After Thomas’ which is a story of one autistic boy and how getting a support dog helped him. My best feel good factor one would be What we love most about life by Chris Bonnello. As a general knowledge about autism book ‘the ten things everyone with autism wants you to know’ is good.

What would you like the world to know about autism?
That while every autistic person may have difficulties in social awareness and understanding, rigidity of thinking and have some repetitive movements plus communication difficulties that doesn’t mean they are any less than anyone else. For some autism is very much a major disability but for others it is more a difference. It’s about accepting people regardless.

You can find Miriam on Facebook here: Faithmummy