There are so many things you can say to a parent or carer of an autistic person. Sadly some of those things are inappropriate, cruel or rude. One thing that I hear far too many times is just ridiculous. I bet you have heard it too often too…
“THEY DON’T LOOK AUTISTIC”
What kind of statement is that? I really don’t understand why on earth someone would think this is a good thing to say. I am a member of a few parent support groups online and today I have come across no less than 11 different parents that have been told their child doesn’t look autistic this weekend alone! Why? What possesses people to say something so utterly crazy? What do they think autism looks like? I am baffled, truly baffled at why we hear this all the time. So here it is, let me show you what autism looks like….
Shocking isn’t it? She looks so much like a ‘normal’ young girl (another thing best not to say “Oh but she looks so normal”). She’s not green, she’s not a giant, she doesn’t glow in the dark or multiply if she eats after midnight. She is simply Eliza, an autistic child. So again I ask why people think it’s OK to suggest she should look different because she is autistic?
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